What is the law of attraction? The law of attraction is a universal law that applies to everyone. As vibratory beings we give off signals/vibes which attract like beings and experiences that are a match to what we feel and think. We create our lives through our thoughts and emotions. Like attracts like.

For many years I felt like I was a victim. I carried this belief from childhood into adulthood behaving in victimlike ways and recreating the trauma of my childhood. Now of course as a child I was victimized but because I held onto this feeling and continued to think in victimlike ways, I continued to attract more and more situations in which I was victimized as an adult.

Most of my I did not have any understanding of the power I had to create what I wanted in my life. I did not understand that I could choose who and what I attracted. I surely did not think I could control my thoughts or emotions. I thought I was at the mercy of some outside force and at the mercy of my own damaged mind and heart. I only hoped that things would eventually get better somehow.

Two years ago I was introduced to the law of attraction through a book entitled, Ask and it is Given by Jerry and Esther Hicks. I read the whole first half of the book in one sitting. I'll never forget the beauty of that day and how I could actually feel the eyes I used to see the world literally changed, as if the fog lifted, the dark sunglasses brightened. I remember closing the book and going outside just to soak in nature and the incredible love and joy I felt from the Universe. I was loved and the Universe, God, Source, whatever label you want to put on "It", wanted me to be happy. It wanted to give me all of my desires and all I needed to do was ask and allow. In allowing I would receive the divinely inspired information needed to create and receive. Source would show me the way. All I had to do was trust the process and myself and the ideas would come, the doors would open.

And then came the questions and doubts. The book is a record of channeling sessions in which a group of nonphysical beings collectively called Abraham speak through Esther. I was like, what? Luckily I didn't much pay attention to the introduction till after reading the first half. I thought to myself, how do we even know that it's true, maybe she's lying, maybe it is all Esther and Abraham is all made up to make it seem more real and true. I didn't understand or even believe in channeling but because the message was so pure and had on a spiritual level reached inside of me and touched me on such a deep level, I was able to put aside the way the message was conveyed. How could I ignore this precious gift of empowerment and liberation? I couldn't and I wasn't about to ignore my experience and my connection to something greater than myself or my new understanding of my own power. I was going to embrace it and deal with my questions as I went along.

Once I got past the channeling issue, I found myself grappling especially with the idea that we attract even the most horrible things to us. And what did that mean for children who are abused and the rape victim? I could not accept that children attraced abuse to them or that a rape victim could possibly attract such a horrific crime to them. Where did that leave the perpetrator? I had trouble with these ideas, serious trouble. But how I could I say I believed in the law of attraction and ignore these issues? How could I share this new found knowledge to my fellow survivors and ignore what would obviously be a glaring question. It was bound to come up and I wanted to know the answers for myself as well.

I thought about my grandaughter and what a powerful creator she is, how she has manifested cats and bunny rabbits just by mentioning them. The next day after talking about bunnies and cats, in her two year old way, sure enough there is a rabbit or a cat outside our window. I also see how much she is influenced by the vibrations of those around her. How she senses when we are emitting negative vibes, and how she too will become cranky or suddenly angry. I've witnessed her mother fear that she will catch a cold and sure enough after talking out loud about being sick, my granddaughter starts to develop symptoms. Then I think back to my mother and the low vibrations that were rampant in my home for most of my life. I think about the depression, the hopelessness, I think about how my mother's father was a pedophile and how he probably did the same thing to her that he did to me. What kind of energy would that cause her to give out as she saw me grow into the ages of her own molestation. How much did her own vibe influence mine? After being molested once, how did my own vibration change? I know the answer to that, I know how I held my head down and how obviously vulnerable I was.

Eventually I became a magnet to those that were looking for someone to prey upon, to those whose vibration was that of insecurity, perverseness, those that were looking for someone to dominate. And so there is a difference between saying that a child chose to be abused and saying that their vulnerability and fear made them a target, a magnet if you will to those who needed someone just like that in order to commit their crimes and get away with them. This is why so many of us are victimized over and over again. This is why victims of sexual abuse are often raped as adults. They do not choose this but their fear based thoughts and emotions translate to an energy that attracts those who are looking for someone to overpower.

This understanding led me to take a good look at my own vibration and what I was attracting into my life. The fact that I could at any moment change it was so freeing. I didn't have to remain a victim, I could change my thinking thereby changing what I felt and what I created in my life. Much harder to do of course but doable and I have spent the last two years consciously creating what I want in my life. Of course there are things that are unknowable and of course I could be wrong but since what happens in your life is based on what you believe, I choose to believe in the law of attraction and that will make it true for me.

Today I share this with you so that if it resonates, you will begin to consider asking your own questions and forming your own understandings around it. According to the law of attraction, it is in place and always working whether you believe it or not. I'd rather work with it than to believe that my life is out of my own hands. I hope that you will consider the possibility and magnificence of your own power. The following are some other survivors sharing their own understandings of the law of attraction and how they live by this Universal law. They were kind enough to answer some difficult questions.

 
If and only if you feel comfortable share a little about the kind of abuse you suffered and the ways it has affected your life. 
 
I don’t remember any specific memories about the abuse I suffered but I know within every cell in my body that I was sexually abused by my father. I’m not sure when it started or when it ended. I remember only glimpses of my life up until the age of twelve. This was how old I was when my father and mother finally divorced and my father no longer lived at home. 
 
In your own words what is the Law of Attraction? 
 
To me the Law of Attraction means that what we believe, feel, and know to be true becomes reality for us. We can control these things and therefore we can create our own reality. 
 
Describe your journey with the Law of Attraction from your beginning understandings and struggles to where you are now. 
 
I have believed in the Law of Attraction long before I was aware of a name for it. It took some time for me to fully take responsibility for my life and what it had become… poor relationships, struggling with money, frustration, and general stress. Once I understood that my beliefs were creating my reality, I felt empowered to be able to change it. That was fantastic for me. Over time I have wavered back and forth between what society believes and what my heart does. I am now practicing daily to maintain a positive focus, one of appreciation and joy, as I bring about creating my desires. 
 
How did the knowledge of the Law of Attraction help you as an abuse survivor? 
 
As to where my thoughts, beliefs, and emotions were during the abuse I can’t recall. Listening to what my siblings remember lead me to believe that it was a family of alcohol abuse, anger, and possibly mental and physical abuse. It is quite possible that I felt I was nothing and was treated as such. 
 
The Law of Attraction has helped me tremendously to move beyond my past. It is my past and it has no power over me any longer. It is not part of now. We are all energy and we can choose not to hold on to those thoughts or feelings that have caused pain or suffering for they can only bring us more pain and suffering. They do not have to be part of our current vibrations. 
 
What advice would you give to other abuse survivors who are wanting to learn more about the Law of Attraction and begin consciously using it in their lives? What is your take on the Law of Attraction and children who are abused? 
 
When their abuse took place they were not aware of how their thought patterns and emotions created the energy that drew the situations to them. Now they can begin to understand that they can create any life they want if they are willing to let go of those old feelings and thoughts. They are here now and now is what is important. Their focus can be placed on how they are deserving of a rich and beautiful life filled with joy, trust, unconditional love, and all the goodness that the world has to offer. 
 
For me I had to first come to the conclusion that the person who had abused me (now living less than two minutes from my home) was not going to be able to cause me any pain, suffering, or harm, because I was not going to allow it. I was not going to let anyone take away from my happiness. I deserve, as everyone else does, to enjoy life to the fullest. 
 
I hope that my sharing can help someone reclaim there own life. 
 
Michelle – Queen Of All I Survey